If you are a man aged 35/55 and feel frustrated, unhealthy and have low motivation, I can relate:

read this.

 

At some point most men feel inadequate, tired, frustrated and have low motivation. This is due to a combination of internal and external factors:

-        Age: Testosterone levels can drop naturally. We aren’t naturally as fit as when we were younger. We lose hair and grow bellies.

-        Perceived achievements: We aren’t what we thought we would be. I wanted to be a motocross champion AND a guitar god.

-        External pressure: Social media shows the good and the bad. Never the full picture.

How can you regain motivation, confidence and health? Let’s break it down to the basics.

-        You don’t necessarily know what your goals are.

You think you do, but do this: focus on your goals and ask why, why is this MY goal? This is essential. Some goals will stick, some others are entirely manufactured by social pressure, media and tradition.

Break it down to what YOU want.

Ask yourself this question:

-        Why do I want (insert goal here) ? What’s the origin of it?

If it’s not for the following reasons, question it HARD:

-        It improves my health and wellbeing (even financial)

-        It helps my family

-        It lowers my risk and ability for others to control me (I will write about blackmail another time)

-        It helps other people or causes I REALLY care about

IF your goal is there for the following reasons, DROP IT

-        It makes me look good in the eyes of others

-        I want to be better than (insert person you’re jealous of)

-        I want to punish/hurt/settle a score so I will do this.

 

These are not your goals. These are weeds growing in your brain which you need to eradicate. Your life is too short for this.

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So, where do you start?

 

Always, Always, Always start with the basics.

 

What improves your health, wellbeing, motivation and – ultimately – success and satisfaction?

-        Physical health

-        Mental health (they are the same but have different levers)

-        Better social life

-        Better family life.

-        Understand “work” and “money”

 

Follow this blog for the next chapter, and thanks for reading.